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You can’t meet someone at a bar. The nightlife scene in New York City is notorious for strong,
expertly crafted cocktails, creatively designed venues and of course,
late-night hookups. While it’s not realistic (or ideal) to get black-out drunk and expect to
find Prince Charming by the bar, you can in fact be social and flirty with new
men you meet when out on the town. Having a couple drinks can relax your
nerves, so you’ll feel more confident than when you’re completely sober to chat
it up with someone you’ve just met. Try your best to stray a bit from your
gaggle of gals from time to time, as a group of 6 beautiful women will
intimidate most men to approach you. Keep your wits about you when out with
your girls and you just may meet a man who is date material.
You can only meet someone at a bar. Getting drunk and hooking up with a cutie at the local dive may
have lead to some of your relationships in college, but in New York City there
are many other, and sometimes better, places for meeting a potential mate. Start
with these 7 places to meet someone in NYC.
Only weirdos use online dating sites. Despite what you may have heard, online dating sites are not
just for men looking for hookups (a la Craigslist) or anti-social freaks. There
are successful men and women with impressive careers, who are attractive and interesting, looking for love online. Take a chance and make a profile
to see what guys in your neighborhood or borough are searching for their Ms.
Right.
All the “good ones” are gay. New York women
have got some serious love for the gay community. Our best gay male friend may
be our trusty (and honest) shopping companion, monthly Broadway musical date or
the guy we prefer to dance close to at Le Bain. While our gay best friends may
be handsome, intelligent, well spoken and talented, we know that our love for
them will always be unrequited. Yes, these men are amazing creatures who we
wish we could date, but don’t fret – they aren’t the only men in New York City
with dateable qualities. Adventure out of your fashion, theatre, music and
production fields once in a while to meet straight men who just may have many
of the same dependable qualities as your gay BFF.
Guys who own are more responsible than guys who rent. Finding out that the new guy you’re dating owns a one bedroom in
Soho or a loft in Williamsburg may up his “cool” factor, but just because he’s
a homeowner, it doesn’t make him more responsible or better boyfriend material
than a dude who’s renting. Whether you’re owning or renting in New York City,
you know it’s an expensive venture. Don’t judge a guy’s worth by his apartment
status. Well, that is, unless he is in his late-thirties and still living at
home with his parents, without a job or career goals or even a plan to move out
on his own in the near future. That guy you can judge.
You’ll need to move to the burbs to find a husband. There may be some women with this notion, as The New York Post reported,
but it’s not a philosophy we all need to follow. Yes, many men in the city are
career focused and prefer playing the field with every pretty young thing who
catches their eye (or sips from their bottle service), but that isn’t true of
every New York City man. Both men and women in the city are focused on
financial success, while enjoying all that this lifestyle has to offer, like some
of the world’s best restaurants, nightlife and art. But there are many men and
women who are looking for love to enjoy these amazing NYC luxuries as a couple. You
don’t need to move out of Manhattan to find your one true love. You just need
to be open and looking in all the right places.
Exactly! I hate these (and all the other) dating myths about NYC! My girlfriends always ask how I meet so many people ( including boys but also new friends, mentors.. whoever) when they swear they can't find one guy anywhere. I always tell them all they have to do is live their life and everyone comes into who is supposed to be there! Thanks for breaking these down ;) xo
ReplyDeleteI've actually met two boyfriends in a bar, and my current boyfriend online. Have an open mind!
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