It’s going to make a
world of difference for your relationship and every occasion - from holidays to
vacations - will be so much better if you’re buds. So make an effort at a good
first impression by genuinely trying to get to know them. Win over your lover’s
sibling with these tips (and your natural charm, of course).
(Summer photos with my sister Sami) |
Do your research. This seems obvious,
but make sure you ask your significant other details about their siblings
before you arrive at their door. Are they still in school? What are their
interests? Is there something that they absolutely love or absolutely hate? Starting
a conversation will be easier when you’re first introduced, such as “Sarah has
told me all about your fear of deli meats. How did that even start?” or “It was
great to hear you got offered a scholarship for NYU. Congrats!” It’s important
to show you remembered and care about something your other half has said about
them.
Ask (a lot) of questions. No matter who
you’re meeting, remember that people
love to talk about themselves. So get their siblings chatting away! This not
only makes them happy and comfortable, but it takes some of the attention away
from you, so you can spend less time having to divulge your family issues
or lack of a good new job.
“Monkey See, Monkey Do.” Notice how the
siblings relate to each other: Do they tease? Are they affectionate? Try to
imitate this behavior, without stepping over any boundaries or inside jokes
from 1995.
Give them their space to be siblings. There’s nothing like the bond between brothers and sisters.
Respect their relationship. Let them do their thing, while you hang on the
sidelines for a bit.
Don’t try too hard. If you behave like
you need to win their approval it might get awkward. Talk to them like you’d
talk to a new friend or coworker. Be friendly.
Don’t be clingy. Try to find time to
chat with the sibling without your significant other holding your hand (or even
in the same room). Make it known that you’re interested in actually making a
connection and starting a relationship of sorts with them. This also shows that
you're independent and don’t need to rely on their sibling to get through your
everyday life.
Take the PDA’s down a few notches. While you do want to show the siblings (and the whole family)
how much you care about and love him/her, any behavior that borders on too sexual
will be creepy. A handhold is sweet, a touch of the lower back is intimate, a
quick kiss is romantic, but anything more is a no-no in front of the sibs.
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