Thursday, March 3, 2011

Get Under to Get Over

Is it true that the easiest way to get "over" Mr. Wrong is to get "under" someone new?  When your mind is consumed with thoughts of your ex, it’s hard to direct your attention to that handsome stranger.  Wondering “what went wrong?” or “why doesn’t he miss me too?” all day long, will only hinder you from finding your next potential partner.  Being a girl who falls too hard too quickly and cares too deeply, moving on has never been easy.  I’ve always believed that when you’re open to meeting someone new, not necessarily sleeping with this sexy stranger, but focusing on getting to know him, it can be a helpful way to get over the guy who broke your heart.   Now to be clear, I’m not opposed to hooking up with a new cutie.  But, just the physical act of sex with a stranger can make an already emotional girl that much more upset.  So, how do you move on?  

Do you believe that crushing on a new guy will get you over Mr. Wrong? xo

8 comments:

  1. Apparently, i suck at giving advice.
    I think the only thing one CAN do just take one day at a time.
    Getting over someone the healthy way invovles keeping yourself busy, hanging with friends, and making yourself a better person. Getting down and dirty with someone knew will only make those fresh wounds deeper and possibly set you up for another heart break

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  2. I like Mo's advice!

    I wouldn't have the stomach for the "physical act of sex with a stranger." I've talked to enough guys with enough bizarre theories about female anatomy to know that I'd have to be in love with a guy before I could tolerate the process of re-education. I certainly couldn't pretend that the application of his weird theory was working.

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  3. It definitely helps but I like to think that I can get over a guy on my own. Just moving onto the next guy isn't going to give you complete closure and you become to dependent on men. If you want to come away stronger and more independent then I would say don't get another a guy right away :p

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  4. Yea, I say direct your attention to a new hottie AND even more important, take time for yourself! Get more gym time in, buy yourself a new fashion item & meet up with friends more often!!

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  5. I don't totally agree with the jumping into bed idea because I don't want to replace the problem of being too attached to my ex with the problem of being too attached to the rebound (oxytocin gets me everytime) but after my last breakup, a stolen kiss with someone new definitely helped me!

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  6. Its called getting someone on the rebound. Never good because at that time your insecure vulnerable and will settle for less. Best cure is time and socializing without being desparate.

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  7. I agree with MareBare - you've got to give the feelings some time and space, but that doesn't mean wallowing or pining, some "investment in me" focus can't hurt and the best help I've had for overcoming break ups is definitely my friends. No, alcohol. No, friends. No, urgh I just can't decide.

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  8. This is the time to indulge yourself. Feel like making out in a bar with a 23 year old? Go for it. Feel like eating a jar of peanut butter and a jug of wine for dinner? Do it. Feel like spending a stupid amount of money on a super hot dress so you remember how gorgeous you are? DO IT. A couple of weeks of indulgence will remind you how ANY guy should treat you, and will bring that guy into your life!

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