Tuesday, January 18, 2011

The New Online Dating.

Do guys send you messages on Facebook before you begin texting?  Have you wondered about that cute stranger’s avatar on Twitter?  It seems that communication via social media has influenced the world of dating.  Traditional online dating (making a profile describing your interests and what you’re looking for in a relationship) now has less of a stigma, yet not every 20-something New Yorker is rushing to sign up.  While I do have friends who have found love (and even marriage) online, I have more friends who prefer to meet guys the good ole’ fashion way – drunk at bars in the Lower East Side, through friends at an apartment party, or while shopping at Whole Foods for coconut water. 


As a Facebook user since my junior year of college in 2005, I have seen many guys use this social network to contact and flirt.  You get a friend request from a guy from your past – maybe he was in your high school AP English class or a dude you met at a party a few months ago.  So, you accept his friendship, because you do kinda know him.  And then it all begins… He “pokes” you.  Then sends a private message.  And comments on the photos from your 21st birthday keg party.  Eventually he finds a reason to write on your wall.  And maybe you exchange numbers and begin texting before he convinces you to go out for drinks.

Connecting on Twitter is completely different, as most of your followers are strangers, not real life friends (or friends of friends).  Have you tweeted with a cutie who eventually send you a DM (Direct Message, for those of you who are not Twitter users) asking you a question?  Then exchanging emails and phone numbers?  Guys seem to be willing to be forward on Twitter.  Maybe because if they are rejected it won’t feel as personal, since they haven’t met you and most likely won’t run into you, as you aren’t in the same circle.

Have you ever met (and possibly dated) someone from a social media network? xo

10 comments:

  1. I have had several flirty chats with friends of friends on facebook. But my most unique cyber story is the story of how i met the dude. He was a long time reader of my blog and every so often he would send me an email about a new restaurant that i had to try. i'd read it, thank him and carry on. But it wasnt until i posted about my ex breakin up with me that we started to really talk. He would send me lengthy emails of shared heartbreak and eventually i found we had a lot in common. It wasnt until 6 months later that we started g chatting and becoming friends on facebook and even texting. Now, we're like BFFs. If anything romantic comes of it (which is unlikely) it would make for a really awesome story. :-) romantic or not, its still a pretty awesome story. Im just trying to write my fairy tale :P

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  2. Never on twitter. I feel like that way is a little creepy. :)

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  3. I married someone I met on facebook! Well, that's half true. We went to the same college and had mutual friends, but never really knew each other. He found me on facebook years later to see what I was up to-- we met for drinks and the rest is history :)

    One of my interns told me of her college rooommate who randomly looked up a guy's name online during a bored night, messaged him, started talking, and they started dating. They just were married this past April!

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  4. I think meeting people through social media can allow a person to date someone he/she wouldn't typically date if they met in the conventional sense - which can either be a good OR bad thing...

    That is something that can be determined once someone has gotten to know the other person better - which in a sense also goes for conventional dating. However, I think your "red flag" meter should be on longer if it's a stranger - not someone from your past or a friend of a friend.

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  5. This is very informative post. I like this and I bookmarked it.I will use it in future.Thanks for sharing such a precious post with community.

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  6. Never on Twitter but I ended up going on a date with a guy from Facebook. We met at the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Freedom. He was a friends, husbands co-worker. We chatted a bit at the rally but no moves. He then added me as a Facebook friend, messaged me for a few days and then asked me out. He blew it by taking me to a documentary about the financial crisis and having horrible facial hair. C'est la vie.

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  7. Yeah, the guy from Kongo once tried so hard:) they are so funny-serious about marriage:)

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