Thursday, November 18, 2010

Should You Give Him Your Number?

How long after seeing a guy do you reveal your “number”?  No, not the one for your phone, but the one that represents your past.  Your past boyfriends, dates, and (possibly) mistakes.   Do you believe that revealing just how many men you’ve slept with is something you should share with your new guy or is it your private information that he doesn’t need to know?  With all the double standards for men versus women, many women feel they will be judged and labeled as a “slut” if they’ve had more partners than their man, while guys with a long list of sexual partners are generally just accepted in society – boys will be boys.  On that note, do you want to know his “number?”  Does knowing just how many people you’ve both been with matter in your current relationship?   Or is your past just your past?

 
So, should you give him your “number?” xo

10 comments:

  1. I've been dating my guy for 10 months now and we've never even brought up our "numbers". We've talked about past relationships, but he doesn't know about most guys I've dated that haven't been long-term. I only know about 2 or 3 past girlfriends of his. Of course now this post has gotten me curious....

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  2. I dated a guy once who said "I don't want to know anything about the men in your past. All I care about is now, us and where we may be going." Well said, I thought. Now it's my motto too when I'm dating someone.

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  3. I think bringing up "numbers" can be a problem. Men feel intimidated sometimes when they hear something they might not have expected. In the tradition of being a "gentleman" he should not even want to know anyway. That's personal and I stick to the Motto A Real Lady Never Tells

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  4. Well, it's nice to be honest about MOST things,but I do feel no one needs to know your number, but YOU! It's YOUR body, choices & decisions!!

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  5. Hi!
    When I was younger, it was a standard question, but I have no idea how many people the last few have slept with. (Oops, just gave clues about my number, didn't I?) I had slept with more people than the guy in my last relationship but I didn't think anything of it because he was a bit weird that way. As it turns out, he's gay, so that explains a lot. Having said that, I hooked up with my highschool sweetheart last summer and when he told me his number, I felt gross. It was really high and that's just not attractive to me. Screwing a whole lot of women is not going to make me want you more, doofus.

    PS: I love Jau McInerney

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  6. My boyfriend and I shared our numbers in the first year of dating, and I was... SHOCKED. I thought it would be a lot higher than it was, but apparently Australian women don't find Australian accents as exotic/charming/irresistible as American women do.

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  7. The hubs and I have been married for over 2 years, together for over 4. We have never discussed our "number" and I think we both prefer it that way. We were both single in the same huge social circle, so we have discussed past relationships. But overall, what do I really care if he hooked up with a girl in Cabo 10 years ago? GREAT POST!

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  8. Fantastic Question! I just started seeing someone and can't help but wonder how many women he's been with. However, I would be mortified if he asked me, even though I don't think it's a big deal (or a big number, for that matter.)

    I'm going to go examine my own inflicted double standard now...

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  9. Ah, the ever-so-awkward age old question of, "So... how many people have you... ya know.. done IT with?" Its an uncomfortable conversation and I agree with the other women who say its unnecessary. My boyfriend of three years told me he didn't want to "exchange numbers" because he didn't see the point in it and didn't want to think about the other people I'd been with before him (and vice versa). The past is the past, so as long as you are coming into a new relationship disease-free (and emotionally free), then who cares, right?

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