Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Age Ain't Nothing But A Number.

I've dated many different men in the city.  From thirty-something finance gurus to early twenties musicians, I've given them all a chance.  I had always assumed that dating older men would equal more maturity.  But, I was wrong.  Even if a guy is a few years your senior, he may still behave like a frat boy.  I’ve learned that maturity is a personal accomplishment that each man will achieve at a different rate than his buddy on the next barstool.   Dating older men who are well into their career, own their Upper East Side one bedroom, and vacation in the Hamptons, may not be as mature and put together as you had dreamed.  Even this “perfect on paper” guy may drive you crazy with his dating games, drunken antics with his bros, or lack of communication skills.  To find the right guy who is just as mature as your lovely self, be open to dating many different men without judging them on their age alone.  If you give that younger guy a chance, he may surprise you.  What are your thoughts on age differences when dating?  



Have you dated a younger man? xo

12 comments:

  1. Ohhhhhh, dating...There's that word again. It keeps coming up. I wanted to stop thinking about it, but alas I am done being single. I had a BF this year and he slightly younger than I. It was the first time I ever dated someone younger than me. It was great while it lasted and then he decided to cheat on me. Some guys will never grow out of their bad habits I fear. I tried eHarmony (as you can see the antics on my blog), but meeting men the old fashioned offline way is getting harder and harder for me so I've been thinking about going back and giving Match one more try. Thoughts?

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  2. I think it all depends on their maturity level. Though after dating a younger just-out-of-college-and-not-ready-to-settle-down guy last year, it made me appreciate my older-and-knows-what-he-wants boyfriend now who actually talks about the future because he's thought of things like that.

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  3. First of all, I love your blog (as I'm always commenting on the hilarious online dating stories and the guys' profiles)! I have never tried online dating, but meeting men at bars in nyc isn't always successful. I meet new men ALL THE TIME, but they aren't always the QUALITY I want. I'm sure with your fun personality, you'll find a great guy when you least expect it!

    JoBell - you guys are too cute! I miss ya, sistah xo

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  4. Sarah --- I double dawg dare you to try online dating!

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  5. I've definitely thought about it! I have a good friend who found her now husband on Match. He was a busy nyc lawyer and she was a fashion PR girl. Now they live in Ohio and are happily married!

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  6. I am 21 and I was "seeing" an 18 year old. It did help that he is a professional hockey player for the Bruins and had to grow up pretty quickly but I never once even cared about the age gap. It didn't even cross my mind unless someone would talk about him and how he is 18 and already a millionaire. It didn't last long but we keep in touch here and there. I did notice though that he had some immature tendencies but men really cannot help their levels, like you said it is completely individual. You just need to pick your battles and what areas of maturity are most important to you alone.

    xx

    always choose paris

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  7. I'm dating a 33 year old man and I'm 25. He's been divoriced with no kids thankfully, and I really believe we are in the same place in life and want the same things. We talk about the future and am always astounded how he always says that he hates to be "that guy" who is divoriced but thankful in that he knows how to do it right the next time and appreciates second chances.

    Kelly

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  8. as of now I've kept the same age mostly but I would try it if needed lol

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  9. Totally agree! For the longest time I equated age with maturity, but SOOOO not true! (in some cases, that is)

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  10. Well, if I was young & single (which I'm neither), I would in this day & age try out that online dating stuff. What a great idea & it seems so exciting!

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  11. I went balls to the wall on Match.com this past fall. I met a great guy a little over a month ago and we're still seeing each other. I don't know where it's going but so far it's fantastic. He's 8 years older than I am and it has made all the difference in the world. We can talk like grownups about what we want and still have fun. I never would have met him any other way, so, thanks Match.com.

    Sarah, my dear, just try it! It's like online shopping.

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  12. Heather - love the comparison to online shopping! I shall have to give in and give it a try... Will blog about it once I do ;)

    xoxo

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